Remembering Elodie

“And when Jesus came to the ruler’s house and saw the flute players and the crowd making a commotion, he said, ‘Go away, for the girl is not dead but sleeping.” – Matthew 9:24

When Elodie passed, there were things you never want to do when it comes to planning such things for your child. We decided that we wanted to have a memorial service for her. Something simple, yet beautiful. Our church was incredibly supportive and met us where we needed them the most.


We planned out the order of service with our pastors. We selected music and finalized the homily. Two things that weighed on my heart was that I wanted something special for the children in our family, including Finn. Our three nephews and three young cousins took the death of Elodie so very hard and we wanted special time carved out during her memorial to minister to their little hearts. I also wanted to give a small gift to those who came, so we bought lily-of-the-valley pips and placed them in small burlap bags. They can be planted in the fall and they’ll bloom in the spring in remembrance of our sweet girl.

We sang ‘You Gave Your Life Away’ by Paul Baloche and ‘It Is Well With My Soul’ by Horatio Spafford. The story behind the classic hymn (‘It Is Well’) can be found here…these words spoke volumes to our hearts. Dave Huber gave the homily. He spoke from Romans 8.

Romans 8:28-29 is scripture that I’ve been clinging to and find comfort from…

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers.”

This verse continues to show-up in my life. A dear friend sent me a book titled, “Inheritance of Tears” by Jessalyn Hutto…the below pages sum up this verse in such a way that I couldn’t explain it better myself…in reference to Romans 8:28-29…
These aren’t empty platitudes, but truth and hope only Christ can bring.
The one part of the memorial that forever changed me was hearing my love, the father of my children, speak on behalf of Elodie. Mason’s reflection on her short life, his fresh understanding of God’s goodness, and his public affirmation of his love for me and Finn  allowed me to see how much the Lord truly is carrying us through this time of suffering. Mason has always been a man who can eloquently express his heart which I have taken for granted. He’s been, undeniably, hand selected for me for such a time as this and couldn’t imagine walking this life without him. xo


3 thoughts on “Remembering Elodie

  1. Sharon Wilson says:

    Dear Michelle,
    As I sit here and read your beautiful words I am reminded, once again, that our Heavenly Father has ordered our steps and is our strength. His grace will sustain us. I’m so very thankful for your/our faith in Him.
    Love you with all my heart,


  2. Jen Warhurst says:

    Dearest Michelle,
    I couldn’t be more heartbroken for your sweet family, and I certainly don’t have the “right” words to say, but please know that we’re praying for you.
    Jen Warhurst (McCullough)
    Psalm 34:18


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